The starting point for being your best self is knowing and acknowledging your own reality, and then forging your own meaning out of your experiences. Meaning is something you create for yourself. Whenever you experience something, you interpret it for yourself, and the meaning you assign to it is influenced by many things, among them your upbringing, your culture and beliefs, your schooling etc. You can choose the extent to which any of these aspects influences the meaning you create.
We all make choices all the time, whether we are conscious of it or not. And the more you make conscious choices the more of your best self you bring to bear. That means nothing really has to be ‘a certain way’ if it does not really connect with you, no matter who told you or who does what or what the trend is.
This idea that it is up to you and that you have the choice is at the heart of my belief that you cannot be your best self if you are not living authentically. And that is why taking time out to be in touch with yourself matters.
Taking time out will aid you in reviewing beliefs that hold you back and re-assess unhealthy boundaries while helping you to relieve stress,. Time out helps you come to terms with the idea the ‘you cannot do it all’, nor an you be-it-all. Well spent, this time can lead you to choose who and what you would like to be. This choice leads to purposeful living.
Purposeful living is balanced because it is premised on a heightened self-awareness, and propelled by appropriate skills. When you live purposefully you are more likely to have healthy boundaries, which allow you to acknowledge your needs and those of others. It is maintained through continual learning, because your best self is not static. Purposeful living is also authentic living because you cannot live another person’s purpose.
Why not take some time out this week to get in touch with your best self?
Here are some ideas:
- Go on a nature walk.
- Spend time at a beach
- Practise yoga, meditation or other gentle exercise